Joined: 12 Jan 2008
|Posted: Tue Mar 04, 2008 9:25 pm Post subject: Detach with love
|If you are affected by another's addiction, try, try, try, and try harder to let their addiction issues (and ALL resulting consequences) be their own. It is not your responsibility to "fix" anything, it is not your fault this happened, it is not your issue at all.
If anything, those of us affected by another's addiction become almost addicted to the addict! We focus so intently on what they are doing, when will they be home?, is what s/he just told me true?, that our own lives start to be forgotten. Remember youself, focus on yourself, and detach with love from your person with addiction.
Your sense of responsibility will not prevent the addiction from getting worse--and it just may enable it.